Friday, May 29, 2009

birdz & beez

Moms of little girls, how do you start "easing" into the facts of life? I'm not talking heavy duty stuff, but what about, "Mommy is so grumpy right now, I was wrong, will you forgive me? Sometimes Mommy has this time..." or " Mommy can't take you swimming today because I just want to crash on the couch with a tub of Cherry Garcia and a bag of Newman O's (supposedly healthy Oreos)." Ingrid is starting to ask questions...and I remember hearing an "expert" on the subject a while back say that once kids begin to ask questions, you need to have answers...age appropriate of course.

Can you recommend books on the subject that are Christian, yet not promoting naivete? Chad and I wish to raise girls who are innocent, yet not naive.


The 4 Rohrers said...

Family Life has a series of books that go by age. I don't have them yet, but have several friends who have used them. I think they're called something like, God's Design for Sex. They start very basic but very factual talking about how boys and girls are made different from what people have said.

Joy said...

I have two girls and they are 9 and 13. I've got a pretty open conversation style with my oldest. She's always been very curious and when she was 3 she wanted to wear panty liners in her underwear. My 9 yr old doesn't really want to hear anything about anything.
I have heard of that series that the other commenter wrote about. I've never purchased it, but heard good things about it.
I think if they just see you comfortable with things and nothing is "taboo", they will always be open to talk with you as they get older.
My mom never talked with me about anything. When I was 12 she put a book on my bed and basically ran out of the room. It was called Almost 12. Just weird so I try and just make it matter of fact with my girls.
Give them the info as they are ready to receive it. You will probably find that that will be different for both of them.

As far as why mommy is eating icecream and won't swim...I would just tell them that there is a certain time during the month that moms have and we just need to do things different during this time.

Also, try not to make it a negative when you can't swim. Just let them know we're going to do other stuff this week (like lay on the couch and watch cartoons and eat icecream [just kidding]) and go swimming next week.

Don't know if any of this helped or made sense.


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Kellie said...

The 4 Rohers is talking about the the books written by Brenna and Stan Jones. I read the "Story of Me" and "Before I was Born" with The Girl. The Boy has read parts of "What's the Big Deal?"

These are amazing books. Definitly something you'll want to read before hand. The pictures (colored sketches) are tasteful, but there are a few (not many) anatomically correct renderings. Some friends of mine didn't like that, but it didn't bother me.

I enjoyed them because they are very God honoring and we could read through them as The Girl was ready. We didn't just read them in one sitting, although you could.

Hope this was helpful!

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